"From the outside, my life looked perfect. I was working in a career that paid me well, married to my amazing and supportive husband, competing and winning at an elite and international level in coxing rowing and winning awards for my work with communities and clients. I checked all the right boxes, I was young, successful and thriving, but on the inside..."
From the outside, my life looked perfect. I was working in a career that paid me well, married to my amazing and supportive husband, competing and winning at an elite and international level in coxing rowing and winning awards for my work with communities and clients. I checked all the right boxes, I was young, successful and thriving.
It was then that I started to be taken advantage of at work.
I was asked: "you are so great at your job, can you do this extra work?"
I was told: "We value you so much that we are going to give you more responsibility."
I always said YES. I always did the extra work, took the extra responsibility but I was never compensated, never given benefits or stress support and never recognized for my work beyond when the initial ask happened. It was then that I started struggling with self- doubt and anxiety. I worried about my health and constantly felt overwhelmed with no time for happiness. I struggled alone because I was afraid that if I didn’t keep up my ‘perfect life’ and ‘perfect persona’ I would be judged and I would been seen as weak. I was sure no one would understand. It was then that a co-worker came to me and told me about how she was feeling - the exact same way. That gave me the strength to speak up. We did. It was then that the harassment started at work. It started in small and I thought didn’t matter, but it all added up. I got really angry. I was living in a state of anxiety, overwhelm and anger everyday and I didn’t even recognize it.
In May of 2014 I had a total breakdown. I remember lying on the floor in my basement and being totally paralyzed. I was thinking about going back to work the next day and my anxiety and inner script had paralyzed my body, I couldn’t find the strength to move. I remember thinking ‘this is it, I’m cracking, this must be what a mental breakdown is’. I was able to grab my phone and call my husband. I asked him to come home and told him that I needed him; something was wrong, I couldn’t move and I was panicking. He said I was fine and that he would be home later. You know why he said that? Because up until then I was never open with him about the level of my anxiety and state of overwhelm I was experiencing. I was still scared of being judged for my feelings, even by the person I loved and who loved me more than anything in the world. I was still trying to uphold my perfect persona. When he got home 4 hours later I was still on the basement floor. I don’t even know how those 4 hours passed. He picked me up, put me in bed, told me he loved me so much, that he had been worried about me for a long time, that he knew I was experiencing anxiety but didn’t know how to talk to me about it and that something needed to change. He told me I deserved to be loved and to be happy and that he would be right there with me while I figured it out.
It was then that I started to be honest with myself and allowed myself to be vulnerable with those who love me. I began the journey to loving myself, developing a stronger connection to my health and creating the beautiful life that I deserve. I tapped into my roots from my health degree and my experiences being a health coach. I researched and studied how the brain works and how to reset negative pathways and create positive ones. I empowered my body with movement and good food. I learned the science behind happiness and feeling good. I learned how to shift my mindset and to change my inner-monologue. I learned and put into action the law of attraction and the power of positivity. I learned how to check-in with myself, be introspective and to take simple actions towards what I needed. I learned how to be present. Most importantly, I began to believe in myself, love myself and became capable of loving the world around me so much more.
Today I feel like I’ve been given a gift - the ability to regenerate and recreate my life on my terms.
I’m living life with joy and strength in way that I never thought was possible. Having come through the other side I feel compelled to share what I’ve learned. I know it can feel overwhelming to start looking after yourself, and I know you are thinking what’s the point? I’ll never get there. I also know that you're probably thinking ‘I don’t have the time’. I’m here to tell you that you do and you can. All you have to do is start and you can change the trajectory of your life. The outcomes you are constantly searching for are not at the end of the journey or when you reach THE goal, you get fulfilling results during the entire journey, with every single step you take with awareness and presence. It's fun, it's easy and it's exciting to do the work and enjoy the changes!
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